Over the past decade, I have arrived at different crossroads, and at each of them I have had to decide which agreements I should submit with myself, with the universe, with the many different people I meet. „Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With this agreement, you can completely change your life. – Miguel Ruiz (c) Imagine what I`m not ready to do. That`s exactly what I did last year, when I agreed to speak at a project management conference (I originally asked the organizer if she really wanted me or someone older). I spent weeks insisting on what I was going to say, and with an impending delay, all I had to do was plan something for the day, because I was committed to it. The result — actually quite funny and not so scary and I was well received (I had a lot of questions and feeback during and after). Our brain wants us to be consistent, so that our actions often correspond to our thoughts. This means that the signing of the contract changes our view of an agreement. It is no longer just a document with certain rules, it is now something that you have physically agreed to. So your mind will now do its best to stick to the contract you have made, even one that is only with yourself. One of the big parties on establishing a self-contract contract is easier to deal with problems that you will face the commitment of your agreement.
This is because you have added clauses that actually indicate what you should do if you fall out of the car. There are four agreements that I can make with myself. The original chords were given to us by Don Miguel Ruiz in his book „The Four Accords“. However, there is a more in-depth examination of these agreements, and they are „My agreements with me“ those I make with myself, and if I am willing to take an honest look at my own thoughts, behaviors and actions – I might be able to find answers that I have sought once, but that I have never been able to find. Set your goals on paper. Here`s an example. It`s up to you to get involved! Today, [DATE], I am committed to [GOAL]. I stay focused and I`m going to do something every day, big and small, to achieve my goal. I will continue, even if it seems that it will not happen or that others will say that I cannot.
I will not give up. My goal is to reach [GOAL]! I like it a lot! Would you mind if I did it as a contract with myself? 🙂 Thank you for writing this thing. This has had an impact in my life, and I have a vision that I will soon encounter a better version of myself. 🙂 There`s a certain commitment to me. This time, I become diligent enough to achieve my goals. I will follow the rules and orders as before. I should have a mental fitness and ignore all the fights, because I am so tired of being stressed. I need to understand clearly what I want to do in life. It is important to make difficult decisions that pave the way for long-term success, so I have to start all this commitment and continue at the end of the day.
We are responsible for our personal development, no one else can do it for you. Other people might contribute to the process, but it`s up to you to make sure you grow, learn and become better every day.